September 29, 2014

12:39 PM | There Are No Mistakes
  I did my best… I did my best! Dane Cook, comedian The phrase “to make a mistake” implies purposive, conscious, planned action. That’s utterly inaccurate: there are no intentional mistakes, no one consciously sets out to fail. When we fail on purpose, when we make a mistake by design, we are actually succeeding with […]

September 28, 2014

11:36 PM | Happy Birthday, Leonard Cohen, and Mindful Smoking to You!
Thin mists and light clouds waft imperceptibly; The friends who have gathered here pass the pipe around. I know that there is no constancy in what is possible and what is not, Yet I do not believe that fire and ash are only fragments of time. —Wang Lu, a Japanese seventeenth-century “gentleman smoker” (quoted in […]

September 27, 2014

11:08 PM | Noosphere: You Are a Part of It
Noosphere – a beautiful concept. You are a part of this human whole. A conscious or an unconscious part? The noosphere is the sphere of human thought. The word derives from the Greek νοῦς (nous “mind”) and σφαῖρα (sphaira “sphere”), in lexical analogy to “atmosphere” and “biosphere”. It was introduced by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin […]

September 23, 2014

1:58 PM | Impermanence and Permanence
Every life-form that passes in front you also passes in front of itself. (I’m talking about every and any life-form – a neighbor, your kid, an ant on the sidewalk.) Namaste to it all: to all that is inside and outside, to all that passes in front of you and in front of itself. To […]

September 21, 2014

9:51 AM | Mindful Emotional Eating – a Humanistic Harm Reduction Approach
Here’s a question that’s a lot on my clinical mind: “What do clients want and how do I help them get what they want?” This very question is at the core of humanistic harm reduction (HHR). When my client presents with concerns about “emotional eating,” I ask myself the same question. When you, as a […]

September 19, 2014

4:20 PM | Mindful Emotional Eating – a Humanistic Harm Reduction Approach
Another opus of mine on eating is coming out later this fall: this one is about a new concept of Mindful Emotional Eating.  To clarify, the book isn’t about eliminating emotional eating but about making it more mindful – in the spirit of humanistic harm reduction. Here’s the table of contents to give you a […]

September 14, 2014

2:24 PM | An Evolving Text of Self
Mind is a living, evolving, self-correcting, self-editing, self-serving text of survival. What you say to yourself matters.  And what you don’t say to yourself matters too. But, as important as this self-narrative is, we are not it: we are not this mind. This mind, this narrative is but writing on the ever-changing water of consciousness. […]

September 08, 2014

3:15 PM | Mindful Emotional Eating
I have another book coming out later this fall – on mindful emotional eating (not on emotional eating or on mindful eating, but on how to make emotional eating mindful).  Here’s a foreword for this book from Linda Craighead, the author of Appetite Awareness Training who championed the idea of effective emotional eating.  If you […]

September 07, 2014

2:04 PM | The Effort of Happiness
Yesterday night, over a dinner with my older brother’s family, a topic of happiness came up.  My wife, Marla, a fellow psychologist, was sharing about Csikszentmihalyi’s concept of “flow.”  Marla explained that according to the research on flow, people are happiest when they are absorbed (engaged) in a task that is just challenging enough for […]

September 06, 2014

9:55 PM | 99 Cent Blowout of Nirvanic Kitch
[thoughts of pattern interruption; what's the point of pattern interruption? to arrest the mind, to take you off the autopilot] 1. I wait on myself, self-servingly. But I don’t tip. 2. Bringing two black and white walls of duality into a corner I stand boxed into a pseudo-truth. 3. Science will invert you inside out […]

September 05, 2014

2:46 PM | New Love
Losing someone you love is awful. Finding someone new to love is awe. Cure for grief is new love. Cultivate the capacity to lose and gain. Life is attachment and detachment and attachment and detachment. Add infinity to this equation and you get the infinitely regressing point of oneness of living and suffering. - We […]
2:27 PM | Love All That Is
Love all that is. Even stone. Even stone is awareness. Living consciousness awareness. It (stone) is a slow kind of awareness, too slow for the quick, liquid mind that we – modern-day apes – are. But all (you and all this other nameless stuff of the Universe) autopoietic entities know their metabolic boundaries, right? Metabolism […]
1:05 AM | “Now” & “Here” Are But Two Words for the Same Nameless Oneness
Looking through a telescope (as some of us do some of the time), we might not know the exact outlines of our local cosmos but we can always and any time know the outlines of our Now. Oneness is all the same anywhere. Now & Here are but two words for the same nameless oneness […]

September 02, 2014

4:18 PM | Just Sitting or… Is There Even Less to It?
Buddhism, as a healing art rather than a religion, in its therapeutic mandate of healing human suffering, takes the path of getting rid, not of the Suffering, but of the Sufferer… Let me clarify… Buddhism, in its strategic (long-term) rather than tactical (short-term) mandate, is not a “feel-good” endeavor, it’s a “feel-nothing” endeavor: “According to […]
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