Posts

May 22, 2013

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2:27 PM | Music to My Ears

Thank god we're not alone out there.read more

May 15, 2013

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3:02 PM | Bridging the Credibility Gap

Is this disorder real?read more

May 08, 2013

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1:49 PM | A Brain that Works Like a Child's Game

How my brain differs from yoursread more

May 01, 2013

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3:00 PM | Up in the Air

A unique reason to hate flying.read more

April 25, 2013

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1:12 PM | Coming Out of a New Closet

Our family's big secret.read more

April 18, 2013

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12:42 PM | I Don't Like the Sound of That

A mortifying condition for which there is no cure.read more

March 23, 2013

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5:10 PM | ED and the MD

Last night I was on the radio with a certain MD that specializes in men’s sexual health. In this post, he will be referred to as “Dr. X.” As is typical of me, I speak my mind even when it goes against what another professional may be saying. And, I tend to become more passionate …

March 03, 2013

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10:18 PM | Keeping Secrets in Couples Therapy

Every couples therapist has to decide whether or not to incorporate individual sessions. Whereas there are many benefits to doing so, such as gathering information more quickly and thoroughly, special consideration must be given to confidentiality. Specifically, how should a couples therapist handle a secret? What if one partner tells the therapist something in confidence …

October 23, 2012

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1:16 PM | Ladies: Feed Your Sexy!

Eating healthy food can do so much for your health, including your sex life! Ladies, remember, the healthier you are, the better you will feel, including energy for a GREAT sex life! In another great post from my friend and colleague, Joy Rupe, Certified Diet Manager, we will learn about all the veggies and other …

October 16, 2012

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1:00 PM | Ladies: How Chicken Can Hurt Your Sex Life

If you’ve looked at my website and have ever been a client of mine, you know how I feel about the connection between physical and mental health. The mind is connected to the body, and what is bad for the body is generally bad for the mind. When someone comes to me for help with …

September 21, 2012

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3:16 PM | Men: Top Three Ways To Improve Your Sex Life and Golf Game

Men hate going to the doctor. Why? Who knows. I can’t get any man to talk long enough about it to get the answer. Yet men, on average, live 5 years less than women. Theories abound as to the reasons, such as men avoiding health checkups and ignoring small signs that become big problems later. …

September 13, 2012

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4:20 PM | APA Finds Therapy Effective!

The American Psychological Association (APA) has recently found therapy to be effective, reducing health care costs and improving people’s long-term health. The APA reviewed 50 peer-reviewed studies on psychotherapy and issued a resolution. Key findings include: Psychotherapy is effective for a variety of mental conditions Psychotherapy is effective for many different types of people (ie. …

September 06, 2012

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3:19 PM | Erectile Dysfunction: What Everyone (Male or Female) Needs To Know

Erectile Dysfunction…it’s that sensitive subject that nobody really wants to discuss. It’s the elephant in the room. You know it’s there, but it makes you really uncomfortable and you figure if you ignore it, it will go away. Well, that’s why I’m here. I specialize in discussing topics nobody wants to talk about. My reward …

August 30, 2012

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1:00 PM | How To Handle The Office Bully

Corporations have come a long way in developing policies for dealing with sexual harassment. But what about office bullies? Isn’t that also a form of harassment? Similarly to sexual harassment, office bullying can create a hostile work environment that not only makes it difficult for people to function, but also has a detrimental effect on …

August 23, 2012

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1:00 PM | Character Trait Or Conflict Avoidant?

You’re partner is running late again. Despite all of your best efforts to get him or her out of the door, once again you will be late for dinner at your Mom’s house. It’s funny how your partner is on time for other things, such as meeting up with friends… Do you have a partner whose behavior …

August 16, 2012

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1:00 PM | Cyber Affairs: Yes! It’s Cheating

Facebook is a wonderful thing. With 845 million active monthly users, it’s also a very popular thing. But danger lurks behind the fun logo. Many of us are one “friend request” away from an online affair. Yes, it seems quite innocent at first. Oh look! There’s an old friend from high school! I think I’ll …

August 09, 2012

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1:00 PM | Violence In Our World: How To Safeguard Your Mental Health

It seems as though our world is getting more and more violent. Perhaps due to the recent tragedy in the Colorado movie theatre, or maybe it’s because our local newspaper keeps reporting on our new “stand your ground law”…at any rate, how do we process all of this violence? It’s really easy to lose track …

August 02, 2012

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1:00 PM | Meditation Myths

There is a lot of research showing the benefits of meditation. I generally recommend that my clients meditate as a great adjust to therapy to help them relax and focus. Meditation techniques can also be useful in addressing inorgasmia, because these techniques help you to focus your mind on your genitals and not your to-do …

July 26, 2012

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1:00 PM | You May Be The Exception

The other day in spin class, after yelling at the class to go faster and push harder, the instructor removed her mike, slid up to my bike and told me to slow down a bit, you’re working too hard. Huh? She was just telling us to keep it up, push harder. Now she’s telling me, just me, …

July 19, 2012

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1:00 PM | My Favorite Sexual Myths

I realized yesterday as I was working with a couple that I repeat the same sexual myth-busting information over and over again. So then I thought, wouldn’t it be great if I blogged about it so everyone could have it? So…here it is, in no particular order: Myth 1: Women Can Orgasm Via Intercourse Alone …

July 12, 2012

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1:00 PM | How To Suffocate Your Partner

I need space! Who here has never heard that and panicked? We immediately think it means that the person doesn’t want us anymore. But we couldn’t be more wrong. People have differing needs for space. Some people love being with their partners all of the time. Others are quite happy being apart for long stretches. …

July 05, 2012

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1:00 PM | The Stealth Killer Of Relationships: Emotional Affairs

Yes, having an emotional affair is cheating! Some may argue that emotional affairs aren’t as bad as physical affairs, but I think that depends on your perspective. What is an “emotional affair”, you ask? Well, the answer may surprise you. A emotional affair is anytime that you take intimacy out of your relationship by sharing …

June 28, 2012

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1:00 PM | How ADD Can Destroy Relationships

ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder, and it’s cousin, ADHD, Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder, can wreak havoc on intimate relationships. We read a lot about how ADD or ADHD affects people, but we don’t get to read a lot about how it affects relationships. And we should. Being married to someone with ADD is sort of …

June 21, 2012

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10:00 AM | Why Being Perfect Isn’t Great

We think of the word “perfect”, and we think of the optimum, the ultimate, the absolute best. So, it follows that when we think of “perfectionists” we think of high achievers, high performers…you know, successful people. Nobody thinks of perfectionism as negative. But it is. Perfectionists exhibit many self-defeating behaviors. They think that unless they …

June 18, 2012

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1:00 PM | 50 Shades of Grey or Shifty Plays of Lay?

I just finished reading the trilogy “50 Shades of Grey.” And I’ve got issues. Not about the dominant/submissive sexual practices. Nope. I’ve got issues about how they have portrayed “vanilla sex.” There are several problems with how regular sex is portrayed in the novels, the results of which I fear will make women and men …

June 14, 2012

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1:00 PM | Top Three Reasons To Be An Introvert

We all have this impression that somehow extraverts are more successful and socially desirable as introverts. Frankly, I’m tired of hearing this. Why are we judging the relative worth of a person based on a personality trait? Introversion is not a mental illness, so why are we treating it as something to “fix”? I’m going …

June 07, 2012

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1:00 PM | Stop Fighting About Money

It’s common knowledge that the top two things couples fight about are money and sex. Well, this post isn’t about sex…sorry! Money is a topic that can cause trouble for even the most well-adjusted couples. So many of us have emotional issues about money we aren’t even aware of, and these can rear their ugly …

May 31, 2012

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1:00 PM | Stop Holding Yourself Back: Defeat Self-Defeating Thinking

We become what we think. We all tend to internalize negative messages we receive, whether they are from our parents, friends, or romantic partners. These messages may have been explicitly spoken, or merely communicated through actions, or even inactions. We are often unaware of the degree to which we have internalized these negative thoughts. What …

May 24, 2012

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1:00 PM | Are You Afraid Of Success?

Sounds like a crazy question, right? I mean, everyone wants to be successful, right? Yet, you might be your own biggest obstacle. We may say that we want to be as successful as possible, but is this really true? Do we really believe we are deserving of success? I mean, so many other people have …

May 17, 2012

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1:00 PM | How To Nag Successfully

According to a recent study from the University of Southern California, men shut down emotionally when arguing with their significant other. Any wife or long-term girlfriend will tell you they didn’t need a study to tell them this. But, what is newly discovered is that when men are under stress, the regions of the brain …